Instructions For Life

• Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
• Memorize your favorite poem.
• Don't believe all you hear.
• Don't spend all you have.
• Don't sleep all you want.
• When you say, "I love you", mean it.
• When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye.
• Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
• Believe in love at first sight.
• Never laugh at anyone's dreams.
• Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
• In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
• Don't judge people by their relatives.
• Talk slowly, but think quick.
• When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?".
• Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
• Call your parents.
• Say "God bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
• When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
• Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
• Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
• When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
• Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
• Marry a spouse you love to talk to. As you get older, his or her conversational skills will be as important as any other.
• Spend some time alone.
• Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
• Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
• Read more books and watch less TV.
• Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.
• Trust in God but lock your car.
• A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
• In disagreements with loved ones, deal with a current situation.
• Don't bring up the past.
• Read between the lines.
• Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
• Be gentle with the earth.
• Pray. There's immeasurable power in it.
• Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
• Mind your own business.
• Don't trust a person who doesn't close his or her eyes when you kiss them.
• Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
• If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
• Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
• Learn the rules, then break some.
• Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
• Judge your success by what you had to give up, achieving it.
• Remember that your character is your destiny.

10 Easy Ways to Build Self Confidence

Mr. Awais Khan (HR Manager)
The Avari, Lahore.

10 Easy Ways to Build Self Confidence

Self confidence is the most imperative thing any individual requires either at the start of his professional career or through his pursuit to nurture it. Do you feel your mind clouded with questions like, How do I look like to other people? What others think about me? People and their perceptions are the realities that every human faces every day and every minute of his/her life.

Self confidence is the difference between feeling inexorable and feeling anxious about your intellect. Sometimes we observe that wonderfully gifted personals have not harnessed the best out of them because of their internal fears. Remember, your own perception about yourself reflects how others perceive you. Perception is like veracity — the more self confident you are, the more are chances of your success.

Even though many aspects regarding self confidence are out of your control, but you can consciously adopt a number of things to build self confidence. Use the following 10 strategies to get the mental edge you need to reach your prospective.

1. Dress Sharp

A dress affects the way a person feels about himself. For example the morning you know you don’t look good the feeling reflects in the way you carry yourself around all day. This also affects your interaction with other people. So be conscious about yourself and take care of your personal appearance to build up a good confidence level. Significant improvements can be made by following some simple routine:

• Bath and shave frequently
• Wear clean clothes
• Be cognizant of latest styles
• A great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much“. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes buy half as many. Select high quality items. This will decrease your spending because expensive clothes have good quality so they take time to wear out and stay in style longer.
  

2. Walk Fast

A way to tell how a person feels about him/ herself is to observe his/her walk. Is it slow & tired? Or is it brisk and firm? People with confidence walk brisk so adopt this habit. Walking faster will make to you look and feel more important. This will keep you more alert physically and will double the energy level. Even if you are not in a hurry for a meeting or to catch a flight, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step.

3. Good Posture

The way a person carries him/herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lazy movements display a lack of interest and self confidence. They give the impression of being less enthusiastic and dull which in turn implies that they do not care about what is happening around and in their lives. This is a feeling of negativity they carry around with themselves. By practicing good posture, you will automatically feel confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You will make a positive impression on others and will feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Motivation

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Write a 30-60 second speech which highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud or inside your head for a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

Your mind is like a machine which is needed to be controlled by you. When you focus too much on what you want your mind creates reasons why you cannot have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. Consciously focus on gratitude for what you are. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Do not let negativity invade your mind for long as it cannot be avoided but can be controlled. Count your successes, exclusive abilities, good relationships, and positive momentum. You will be amazed how much this simple practice will bring you closer to success.

6. Compliment other people

It is observed that a negative person often transfers his/her negative feelings to others either by insult or gossip. If you feel you have this streak in you STOP! break this cycle of pessimism & get into the habit of praising people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. This will make you acceptable and well liked among your peers and colleagues which will build your self confidence. As by looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row

Around the world we see people striving to seat themselves at the back rows may it be schools, offices or public assemblies. Most people prefer the back seat because they are afraid of being noticed. This reflects lack of self confidence. Sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You will also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they are afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear is not really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion you will become a better public speaker. You will instill more confidence in your thoughts and will be recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you are out of shape you will feel insecure, unattractive and less energetic. Start working out, this will improve your physical appearance; make you feel fresh, boat your energy and accomplish something positive. Working out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum upon which you can build the rest of your day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus more on ourselves and neglect the needs of other people. Concentrate on contributing to the rest of the world you will worry less about you own flaws. You can start with a small charity. This will increase your self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you will be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

Motivational Videos

Randy Pausch - Achieving Your Childhood Dreams



Steve Jobs - 2005 Stanford Commencement Address



One Can Do Anything With Belief - Clip From The Movie 'Facing The Giants'

Words of Wisdom

Dale Carnegie

1. Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
2. Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.
3. Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.
4. Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it... that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear.
5. Fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.
6. Fear not those who argue but those who dodge.
7. Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.
8. First ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst.
9. Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.
10. If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work. Much of the best work of the world has been done against seeming impossibilities. The thing is to get the work done.
11. If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive.
12. Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
13. Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed possible.
14. One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.
15. People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.
16. Remember happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think.
17. The essence of all art is to have pleasure in giving pleasure.
18. There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.
19. There is only one way... to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.
20. When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

1. A friend may well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature.
2. A great man is always willing to be little.
3. A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.
4. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.
5. Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
6. Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.
7. For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else.
8. He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.
9. Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.
10. Make yourself necessary to somebody.
11. Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.
12. Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.
13. People only see what they are prepared to see.
14. The man of genius inspires us with a boundless confidence in our own powers.
15. The sum of wisdom is that time is never lost that is devoted to work.
16. To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
17. Win as if you were used to it, lose as if you enjoyed it for a change.
18. None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone.
19. That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the task itself has become easier, but that our ability to perform it has improved.
20. Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.
    
    

Love

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. -- Robert Frost

Yep, that is what love is, a desire to be desired. A wish to be wished. Love is a great realization to be realized. A feeling to be understood. An emotion to be sensed or flood of emotions to be felt. Love is not unreal, it is a real entity. Love is all around us, even mere smiling at someone is a gesture of love.

Can we control our emotions? Can we control our feelings? The answer might be may be. But for me it is a solid no!

We cannot control our emotions. It is like law of conservation of energy. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed. Love is not created, it just exists. Energy transfers from one form to another. Love, if we try to hide it, will transfer itself into other feelings. Now what other feelings... May be it comes out as a deep cry or an unbearable pain more likely an extreme hurt feeling!

But why do we fall in love? We fall in love because we want to. We want to fall in love because we need to. We need to fall in love because we just cannot live without it. Love is as important as water is to life.

We do not need to explicitly fall in love. It just happens. Love is a natural phenomena, you do not have to do anything to fall in love. When we find that person, to whom we are meant to fall in love, we develop a beautiful chemistry with that person. It is all natural. We start feeling good. Everything starts to seem pleasant. Our brain starts generating such signals that it dawns upon us that this person is the right person for us. The person whom we want to spend our life with!