Appreciation Matters

There are many little things which we tend to ignore that matter a lot and have prolonged consequences. It is a matter of very subtle understanding to know that we get the most crushed and disheartened from the people who are very close to us. How often do we shout at our siblings just for the sake of shouting. We always belittle their ambitions for no good reason. We seldom support their success and always highlight their failures. The confidence of an individual is shattered the most not by anybody else but his/her own parents, brothers and sisters. Do not do that! Do not touch that! Look what you have done! Stay out of my room! Do not play here! We most of the times give importance to material things rather than our own blood. Is your laptop more important than the heart you broke of your little sibling just for touching it? Certainly not.

The words we use during our family conversations can encourage and discourage someone and somehow we negate this fact a lot. Often more than we notice we do not appreciate the relationships that are very close to us. We take them for granted. It might be because we get such precious relationships without much conscious effort. A simple gesture like thank you on receiving a glass of water or cup of tea can spread instant gratification. If we start using words like please, kindly, sorry and start taking responsibilities of our deeds the world around us would become a touch better for certain. We all like to be appreciated be it parents, siblings, teachers or any body else around us. How often do we appreciate the garbage collector of our street? How often do we appreciate the sweeper of our office? These are the little tiny things whom appreciation can give a pleasing feeling lasting for eternity.

Please the next time someone does a good thing for you surprise him/her by saying thank you! And yes, thank you for reading this. :)

Self Belief

We all feel gloomy and redundant in many phases of our lives. In those trifling moments we tend to go into our shells and want to spend some time there. The good with the bad and the bad with the good are part and parcel of life. We have to live with what we get that is for sure. Somehow in such phases we underestimate the power of sharing. When we are feeling down we do not want to share or talk about it. From my experience the mind that creates a problem has difficulty solving it. That is where sharing helps a lot. When you share you start feeling lighter. The burden held by one is shared by more. Moreover, you might get a solution of your problem through sharing as well.

What really gets us going? Is it Hope? Inspiration? Motivation? Faith? Belief? Trust? Ultimately it is a mixture of all these that gets us up each time we fall. Falling down is not an issue at all but not getting up and giving up is where the true mantra of life and living is lost. When we are feeling down that is where our hopes, inspirations, motivations, faith in our thinking, belief in ourselves and trust in our abilities kick in and make us stand and deliver to the best we can once more. Having something that we can always rely on in hard times would always breathe new life in us. That reliable force and phenomena is none other than our own belligerent self.